Speak Peacefully in #Love!

Mars has Entered Leo with the Asteroid Ceres, and the Sun is Fast Approaching

We all know that Leo the Lion is a fire sign that has no qualms about letting us know how (s)he feels when it comes to love and relationships. As Mars, the God of War enters into the energy of the sign with the amplifier Ceres and the Sun fast approaching, there is a tendency for us to say words that we could not take back even if we wanted to!

Think Before You Speak!

Through the first week of September 2017 it’s going to feel like if we don’t say what is on our minds we may explode, but I promise…..we won’t. Please practice the following for the next few days:

1. Breathe and clear your head when faced with challenging circumstances.

2. Wait a couple of days before you respond to that insane text message that someone had the nerve to send you. Perhaps they are taking something out on you, or are confused themselves. Give them a chance to explain and a couple of days to gather their own thoughts.

3. Let your yays be yay and your nays be nay, meaning you don’t have to add a bunch of profanity to the mix. Show them you mean what you say with your actions, and remember, you always retain the choice of saying nothing at all.  Silence is golden.

4. Save your energy for yourself.  Arguments usually cause us to project our own energies onto the subject of our grief leaving them feeling energized and us depleted.

5. Don’t believe everything you see on social media! We can hire actors to pose in pictures with us, and quite honestly, some people post pics just to give people the impression that they own things that are really only borrowed….lol.

Hopefully these tips will help us to survive the Leo transits that are occurring as I type!

RT

What Jay Z and 4:44 Can Do for the #Love of an American Male

When Beyonce came out with Lemonade, the visual album, I had to get a copy and must say it is a work of art, enjoyable no matter how many times I view it.  As many of you are aware, I dealt with infidelity also and Beyonce captured the suffocating intoxication of what cheating does to a woman, and what the cheatee requires from the cheater to continue on in the relationship.

The emergency manual for the broken heart.

Enter Jay Z and his new album 4:44, which features a remake of the tune Four Women by Nina Simone.  Perhaps Jay Z, in addition to stating no matter the color of your  skin, you are still who you are, also had an underlying meaning with regard to four women instead of just one (food for thought).  Additionally, he provided more than the 411 about what was going on in his male head when Queen Bey demanded absolute honesty and loyalty.  He admitted this was nothing he had ever been required to do before, and how different it was for him once he actually put himself in her shoes.

Here is where I feel Jay Z, in his confessions and sensitivities, contributes to Love American Style.  Many men will live his experience, emotions and words through this very popular album….imagine the consciousness that this will raise in the urban community.

How many other men will wake from their lusty slumber as they relive Jay Z’s relationship with Bey?

Is the peer pressure  to be a baller so strong amongst young men that swaggalishusness precludes them from being faithful?

Of course there will be many men who will immediately jump on the T.H.O.T train and claim the women have it coming to them, and don’t want to be saved, but……

…….I’m not talking about those women.  I’m speaking of all the women who raised themselves up in order to attract and to BE a worthy partner, only to be fooled by the empty promises of monogamy in a primarily polygamous culture.

Will Jay Z continue to be faithful or will he falter?  How many other men will come clean and agree that fidelty is worth sacrificing the other woman?  Does it matter if Jay Z is faithful as long as he is truthful?

Is true love the only emotion that can evoke faithfulness in a man?

Who knew that being true to a woman makes some men feel like they are less virile?

I am absolutely NOT convinced that fidelity and faithfulness are the natural order for the majority, but I’ll give Jay Z an ‘E’ for effort and a hand clap for going platinum.

 

RT

Falling in #Love with Nonexistent People

Yesterday I received a text from an old love, who I had not heard from in months, and who had disappeared in the middle of our so-called relationship.  Based on how he acted when we were together, I had been left quite in shock, and did not understand the sudden betrayal and abandonment.  Yesterday, in his texts, he sounded a bit out of it, said he was in physical pain due to some undisclosed ailment, and confessed not having a heart……um, duh!  

I woke up this morning thinking about all of my lost loves, facing my unrealized self and tried to carve out a general truth about love.  Come explore this with me…

 

Hollywood – The Bane of Our Society

Vision boards are suppose to work, so if the television and movie screen are our most watched vision boards, why are we not falling in love or living in fabtabulous families with happy endings like most movies have?  BTW, if you are living the fantasy life, you may not get anything out of this post because you are likely already where I am headed to or are being taught by some capable person who lives there.  The issue is that when we look at vision boards that we create, they come from us and from our very real desires about what we want.  Hollywood offers scripts………and actors.

 

The First Actor

I realized a little too late that some men were not as interested in me as they first appeared to be.  Quite truthfully, they just wanted a piece of ass so they had to go through a bit of a dance and acting job to get it.

They pretended to want to hear what I had to say.

Silly me.  I was so excited about wanting to be heard that I spilled all of my silly hopes and dreams, only to find out that when the same guy talked to his best friend, his conversation was totally different.  He thought I was silly and spooky.  I realized I didn’t even know him or what he liked to talk about AND he did not feel me worthy of even trying to broach the conversation so he stuck to “you’re so beautiful”, “so what do you like to do” AND “what did you do today?”

After I gave up the cookies……too early…..I found out that he had gotten what he was looking for and he was off to the next bag of chips.  In fact, when he texted me his well rehearsed lines to get what he wanted, I never knew he had sent out the exact same texts to six other women before me.  Well now.

What My Male Friends Taught Me

My male friends will sometimes be on the phone with me when one of their love interests calls them (on a different line), and I hear them say, “OMG, I hope she just goes away,” only to answer the phone in the most welcoming voice to make her feel that she is adored.  Damn.

When my ex was trying to win me over, he called constantly and pretended to want to counsel me on all my woes.  Now he reveals truthfully, “women need to find other women to talk about certain things because men just don’t want to hear it!”

Then why in the hell did you ask?  Who knew.

Learn First, Love Later

Women who are looking for love need to understand a few things in order to get as close to the Hollywood scenario of Prince/Princess Charming as possible.

  1. Allow the love interest that you meet enough time to take off his/her mask.  Yes everyone comes putting their best face forward and you really don’t know who you are getting until they remove the fake hair, hair dust, freckle/blemish-covering clay (not that freckles are bad), false legs, false nails, false lashes, false fragrance, etc., and allow you to look under the bed and in the closet of their lives.  Haven’t you ever wondered why many people are so fake?  It is because they don’t like their real selves and don’t want you to see them, so how in the hell can they love you.  Once their imperfections are revealed, become adorable or at least tolerable to you and vise versa, then you might be able to strike a deal.
  2. Marriage and long-term commitment is a business deal.  Would you enter into a new business with a thief with no money, skills, passion or direction?
  3. Give people a chance to prove to you what they are saying.  Taking someone’s word at face value can lead you to fall in love with an imaginary character that the person in question created, specifically when their flattering words are meant to turn attention away from themselves.  Wait until the conversations become less flattering and more revealing.  Once revelations are made, watch the person live out their convictions because if they cannot keep promises to themselves, they cannot keep them with you either.
  4. Don’t give up the cookies to soon if you are looking for lasting relationship, unless you are a woman who is into sex for money or the sheer joy of sex.  You could develop a miserable soul tie that lasts for years whether you want it to or not, and men do not develop soul ties as fast as women do because they are mental lovers, but women are sacral lovers — sacral being where things grow.  There is a game called love that is not about love at all, but more about saying what is necessary to fulfill lust.  Stay on top of the currency of the developing friendship and put the currency on the shelf for a while to ensure that the gold you were given does not turn into rusted brass, all because it wasn’t really gold to begin with.  When a man has sex with a woman, he inserts part of his soul into her and that soul wants to go back home when if finds out where it is, unless you are some type of energy vamp that knows how to transmute it (that is another blog post…lol).  Once that energy wants to return to him, you will find yourself obsessed with being with someone even if you don’t even like them, and that is scary and confusing.
  5. Sometimes the other woman does get the man. If you meet a guy or girl who has been intimate with someone since childhood, and they confess to you that they married someone else and an affair with this same person ruined their last marriage, AND they are still friends with this person, THEN you may want to just remain friends with him as well, until you check out the truth of the situation.  There are some people that others have strong, active 5th houses with, and if a Saturnal placement also exists there, you won’t be able to compete, unless you have a rival astrological compatibility with that person.  Other times the man is in love with the woman and she is just not attractive enough for him to bring around his family and friends, so  he enjoys during booty call hours only, which makes him a punk.

Hope this advice helps and that you can go into your quest for love, all the wiser.

RT

What I Learned from the Parents of Lizzie Velasquez

Sometimes I can be really hard on my boys, as I am the consummate perfectionist……and they’re boys!  We have to be careful how we rear our children as what we do could create a very powerful personality.

My Love for Astrology and Similarities with Lizzie

Astrology has been a passion of mine since I was a child, and even though initially I was versed only in sun sign philosophy, the beauty and art of the science grew up in me to expand to birth charts, planetary placements, nodes, etc.

I am really late in that I just heard the story of Lizzie Velasquez, however, we have some things in common:

  1. We are both Pisceans!
  2. We both have Jupiter in Gemini!
  3. We both have stelliums (Four or more planets in one house.)

I hope that my love of astrology can somehow help to get her story to more people — let’s get started.

Caviat – Please keep in mind that my astrological interpretations are my own and may go against conventional norms, seeing they are mostly intuitive.

Powerful Love

Lizzie’s Chart
Lizzie Velasquez

The first thing that stood out to me was the illustrious Sun and beautiful Venus dancing together with the politician Pallas in the 10th house of career, which also doubles as a house of motherhood or parents.  Not only are her parents her strongest advocates, their love for her is immutable and is as real as it gets.

Pisces offers its healing and peaceful influences in the house of her career, but also straddles the fence and leans into the 9th house with speaking ability (Mercury) and the North Node, where she is headed or her destiny.  Despite any physical challenges, Jupiter the great influencer, decided to join with Gemini to give her a hefty dose of brains and comedic timing for use in her public speaking and writing.  She is the consummate communicator and writer, who will inspire millions in teaching them the best way to love.  It would not surprise me one bit if she could also sing.

In order to be the star that she is, the Universe gave Lizzie a hefty dose of familial roots and momma is there again.  Lilith is there, but is transformed by Parts of Fortune and Zeus in the house of Virgo so that she has become the motivator and the one that will NOT let you fall, EVER!  Actually, it is more like “will not allow you to fall”  lol!

I know that Lizzie has suffered at the hands of bullies and shallow, uninformed people, and the 12th house moon proves that, however Mars has undergirded Jupiter in Gemini, most likely because he did not have a choice due to the 10th and 4th house placements of parental strength and love.  She will remain strong, she will overcome, and the love of her family will be the wings that she rides on….it will never fail.

Love your children and support them, no matter what, because you are co-creators with them in their destiny!

Other Interesting Notes

Lizzie has an interesting and full 7th house!  I’ve seen the energies of Neptune misbehave and have gotten to know him as a bearer of unwanted issues, when he is unchecked.  Uranus playing out there with him will require some discipline, but the best disciplinarian, Chiron the Healer is busy in the first house, keeping Lizzie ready and willing to embrace the public.  The Universe felt Chiron was best needed there.  I am hoping that Saturn, with the orderliness of Capricornian energies, will force the two mischievous entities into submission and bring Lizzie life long, strong love, using the Uranus energy to bring a pleasant surprise and the Neptunian energy to help her to realize her dreams!

Good Luck in all of your endeavors Lizzie and great job Mom and Dad!

 

 

 

 

The Real Truth About Love and the Secret of Happiness

If I was a Universal Judge that was tasked with determining whether or not the people in my world knew what love is (to include me), my judgement would be not so favorable…

Love is a Second and Third Person Word that We Have Totally Twisted

It is about her, him, she, them, you, but not me — not in the slightest bit.

Love is not:

Please don’t die because I don’t want to be alone.

Love is not:

Wow, you are so sexy and desirable, I want to ……

Love is not:

I am going to pick up after you and spoil you so that you don’t leave me.  (That’s actually desperation.)

What love is about is what can I do for you and give to you that will not put me in harm’s way, persay, but will result in a fulfillment that I will experience just from giving and nourishing you.

Sometimes putting yourself in harm’s way for a person is duty, which is a high form of love, but not the type I am referring to here so we must not get the terms or energies confused.  Putting your child in harm’s way so that you can keep a man is NOT love.

Also, (changing persons for just a moment) love is not about buying people things so that they can love ME more, and it’s not about cooking a great meal so that I can be complimented and perhaps have a meal cooked for ME in return.  Love is not about ME, it’s about you and the magick happens when somehow, without looking for something in return, you receive something indescribably delicious as a result of your desire to simply give to me and that indescribably delicious something does not come from me.

Motives for Love and the Truth about Monogamy

Always check your motives for everything you do. The truth is, if I really love the ex that broke my heart, I’d just want him to find himself and true happiness, with whomever is the best person for his ascension.  I’m workin’ on that type of love….lol.

Love is not monogamy.  Back in the day, men were lawfully required to love ALL their wives and to equally distribute inheritances amongst them, which is still the case in some countries.  The idea of being in love with ONE person for a lifetime was and is a foreign concept for most humans at a deeply biological and primal level.

I honestly think the concept of monogamy is merely due to the lack of tyrinase.  Tyrinase is an enzyme that produces melanin, which in turn produces a dopamine-type affect in the brain or a ‘happy chemical’ of sorts.  Without this chemical, we look to people and outside influences to entertain us or to keep us pepped up and a break-up could cause one to be suicidal.  Hormones aggravate the need for this dopamine effect, therefore, I hypothesize that monogamy is neither biologically normal, nor a desirable state for the procreation of mankind or the social wellbeing of the world at large — it is merely a consequence of a chemical defect.  Monogamy has actually bred a culture of brokenness, divorce, unhappiness, suicide, heart break, selfishness and disillusionment.  Monogamy is not for everyone and it is not love.

It’s Time to Get Back to Truth

If you are in a state of doldrums because a loved one passed away from a painful illness and left you all alone, it is likely that selfishness has presupposed love to some degree, because the feelings of happiness and relief you should feel when they are released from suffering do not override feelings of what You lost.  Let’s check the motives for what we do and why. We must get back to our purpose and understanding WHY ARE WE HERE IN THE FIRST PLACE????

The Secret of Love and Happiness

People, humans, etc., cannot make you feel loved because no matter how much you do for them or they do for you, you’ll always question how long it will last, or why they did it, or if they really meant it, or how will I survive when they leave, etc.  Someone’s compliments can build your ego, however they are not akin to love because they can’t be unless you are giving said compliments to someone else and looking for nothing in return.

The #secret of the happiness that comes from real love is that love breeds an invisible creation of intense energy that occurs in a spontaneous, ethereal, stem cell moment as a result of what you unselfishly do for others.  No one can bring to you these feelings of love because it is not about what you can get — it is about pure and complete selflessness and the euphoria that only this selflessness can create, and which the universe itself will give to  you.  If you operate in pure love, you shouldn’t even need what someone else gives you to attain a state of happiness because your acts of unselfish love and kindness will provide you all the happiness you need.

RT

PS – I am not sure who took the featured pic, but I think it represents a truth about love.

#TOP #FIVE — #Best-Selling #Self #Help Books of 2015

So you’ve started the new year and you know it’s time to improve some things in your life……right…..about…..NOW!  But where do you start?  Well the good news is that the digitized age puts awesome information right at your fingertips whether by desktop, phone, tablet or notebook.  Are you interested in increasing your #financial #wealth and #independence?  What about improving your #love #life.  Well look no further!  Here are the #top #five #best-selling #books that are currently available at the start of #2015 and that can get you headed toward a prosperous New Year!

Happy reading!

RT