Falling in #Love with Nonexistent People

Yesterday I received a text from an old love, who I had not heard from in months, and who had disappeared in the middle of our so-called relationship.  Based on how he acted when we were together, I had been left quite in shock, and did not understand the sudden betrayal and abandonment.  Yesterday, in his texts, he sounded a bit out of it, said he was in physical pain due to some undisclosed ailment, and confessed not having a heart……um, duh!  

I woke up this morning thinking about all of my lost loves, facing my unrealized self and tried to carve out a general truth about love.  Come explore this with me…


Hollywood – The Bane of Our Society

Vision boards are suppose to work, so if the television and movie screen are our most watched vision boards, why are we not falling in love or living in fabtabulous families with happy endings like most movies have?  BTW, if you are living the fantasy life, you may not get anything out of this post because you are likely already where I am headed to or are being taught by some capable person who lives there.  The issue is that when we look at vision boards that we create, they come from us and from our very real desires about what we want.  Hollywood offers scripts………and actors.


The First Actor

I realized a little too late that some men were not as interested in me as they first appeared to be.  Quite truthfully, they just wanted a piece of ass so they had to go through a bit of a dance and acting job to get it.

They pretended to want to hear what I had to say.

Silly me.  I was so excited about wanting to be heard that I spilled all of my silly hopes and dreams, only to find out that when the same guy talked to his best friend, his conversation was totally different.  He thought I was silly and spooky.  I realized I didn’t even know him or what he liked to talk about AND he did not feel me worthy of even trying to broach the conversation so he stuck to “you’re so beautiful”, “so what do you like to do” AND “what did you do today?”

After I gave up the cookies……too early…..I found out that he had gotten what he was looking for and he was off to the next bag of chips.  In fact, when he texted me his well rehearsed lines to get what he wanted, I never knew he had sent out the exact same texts to six other women before me.  Well now.

What My Male Friends Taught Me

My male friends will sometimes be on the phone with me when one of their love interests calls them (on a different line), and I hear them say, “OMG, I hope she just goes away,” only to answer the phone in the most welcoming voice to make her feel that she is adored.  Damn.

When my ex was trying to win me over, he called constantly and pretended to want to counsel me on all my woes.  Now he reveals truthfully, “women need to find other women to talk about certain things because men just don’t want to hear it!”

Then why in the hell did you ask?  Who knew.

Learn First, Love Later

Women who are looking for love need to understand a few things in order to get as close to the Hollywood scenario of Prince/Princess Charming as possible.

  1. Allow the love interest that you meet enough time to take off his/her mask.  Yes everyone comes putting their best face forward and you really don’t know who you are getting until they remove the fake hair, hair dust, freckle/blemish-covering clay (not that freckles are bad), false legs, false nails, false lashes, false fragrance, etc., and allow you to look under the bed and in the closet of their lives.  Haven’t you ever wondered why many people are so fake?  It is because they don’t like their real selves and don’t want you to see them, so how in the hell can they love you.  Once their imperfections are revealed, become adorable or at least tolerable to you and vise versa, then you might be able to strike a deal.
  2. Marriage and long-term commitment is a business deal.  Would you enter into a new business with a thief with no money, skills, passion or direction?
  3. Give people a chance to prove to you what they are saying.  Taking someone’s word at face value can lead you to fall in love with an imaginary character that the person in question created, specifically when their flattering words are meant to turn attention away from themselves.  Wait until the conversations become less flattering and more revealing.  Once revelations are made, watch the person live out their convictions because if they cannot keep promises to themselves, they cannot keep them with you either.
  4. Don’t give up the cookies to soon if you are looking for lasting relationship, unless you are a woman who is into sex for money or the sheer joy of sex.  You could develop a miserable soul tie that lasts for years whether you want it to or not, and men do not develop soul ties as fast as women do because they are mental lovers, but women are sacral lovers — sacral being where things grow.  There is a game called love that is not about love at all, but more about saying what is necessary to fulfill lust.  Stay on top of the currency of the developing friendship and put the currency on the shelf for a while to ensure that the gold you were given does not turn into rusted brass, all because it wasn’t really gold to begin with.  When a man has sex with a woman, he inserts part of his soul into her and that soul wants to go back home when if finds out where it is, unless you are some type of energy vamp that knows how to transmute it (that is another blog post…lol).  Once that energy wants to return to him, you will find yourself obsessed with being with someone even if you don’t even like them, and that is scary and confusing.
  5. Sometimes the other woman does get the man. If you meet a guy or girl who has been intimate with someone since childhood, and they confess to you that they married someone else and an affair with this same person ruined their last marriage, AND they are still friends with this person, THEN you may want to just remain friends with him as well, until you check out the truth of the situation.  There are some people that others have strong, active 5th houses with, and if a Saturnal placement also exists there, you won’t be able to compete, unless you have a rival astrological compatibility with that person.  Other times the man is in love with the woman and she is just not attractive enough for him to bring around his family and friends, so  he enjoys during booty call hours only, which makes him a punk.

Hope this advice helps and that you can go into your quest for love, all the wiser.


What I Learned from the Parents of Lizzie Velasquez

Sometimes I can be really hard on my boys, as I am the consummate perfectionist……and they’re boys!  We have to be careful how we rear our children as what we do could create a very powerful personality.

My Love for Astrology and Similarities with Lizzie

Astrology has been a passion of mine since I was a child, and even though initially I was versed only in sun sign philosophy, the beauty and art of the science grew up in me to expand to birth charts, planetary placements, nodes, etc.

I am really late in that I just heard the story of Lizzie Velasquez, however, we have some things in common:

  1. We are both Pisceans!
  2. We both have Jupiter in Gemini!
  3. We both have stelliums (Four or more planets in one house.)

I hope that my love of astrology can somehow help to get her story to more people — let’s get started.

Caviat – Please keep in mind that my astrological interpretations are my own and may go against conventional norms, seeing they are mostly intuitive.

Powerful Love

Lizzie’s Chart
Lizzie Velasquez

The first thing that stood out to me was the illustrious Sun and beautiful Venus dancing together with the politician Pallas in the 10th house of career, which also doubles as a house of motherhood or parents.  Not only are her parents her strongest advocates, their love for her is immutable and is as real as it gets.

Pisces offers its healing and peaceful influences in the house of her career, but also straddles the fence and leans into the 9th house with speaking ability (Mercury) and the North Node, where she is headed or her destiny.  Despite any physical challenges, Jupiter the great influencer, decided to join with Gemini to give her a hefty dose of brains and comedic timing for use in her public speaking and writing.  She is the consummate communicator and writer, who will inspire millions in teaching them the best way to love.  It would not surprise me one bit if she could also sing.

In order to be the star that she is, the Universe gave Lizzie a hefty dose of familial roots and momma is there again.  Lilith is there, but is transformed by Parts of Fortune and Zeus in the house of Virgo so that she has become the motivator and the one that will NOT let you fall, EVER!  Actually, it is more like “will not allow you to fall”  lol!

I know that Lizzie has suffered at the hands of bullies and shallow, uninformed people, and the 12th house moon proves that, however Mars has undergirded Jupiter in Gemini, most likely because he did not have a choice due to the 10th and 4th house placements of parental strength and love.  She will remain strong, she will overcome, and the love of her family will be the wings that she rides on….it will never fail.

Love your children and support them, no matter what, because you are co-creators with them in their destiny!

Other Interesting Notes

Lizzie has an interesting and full 7th house!  I’ve seen the energies of Neptune misbehave and have gotten to know him as a bearer of unwanted issues, when he is unchecked.  Uranus playing out there with him will require some discipline, but the best disciplinarian, Chiron the Healer is busy in the first house, keeping Lizzie ready and willing to embrace the public.  The Universe felt Chiron was best needed there.  I am hoping that Saturn, with the orderliness of Capricornian energies, will force the two mischievous entities into submission and bring Lizzie life long, strong love, using the Uranus energy to bring a pleasant surprise and the Neptunian energy to help her to realize her dreams!

Good Luck in all of your endeavors Lizzie and great job Mom and Dad!





#TOP #FIVE — #Best-Selling #Self #Help Books of 2015

So you’ve started the new year and you know it’s time to improve some things in your life……right…..about…..NOW!  But where do you start?  Well the good news is that the digitized age puts awesome information right at your fingertips whether by desktop, phone, tablet or notebook.  Are you interested in increasing your #financial #wealth and #independence?  What about improving your #love #life.  Well look no further!  Here are the #top #five #best-selling #books that are currently available at the start of #2015 and that can get you headed toward a prosperous New Year!

Happy reading!


Help Wanted: More Love

 Quotes About Love

Love’s power is in the fueling of another’s life or #chi / #ase, which comes back to the sender for a never-ending cycle of power for living.


Love is when my kitty and my Shih Tzu fight over personal space, which turns into licking each other’s ears then taking a nap together.

Love is hope that no matter what you see in a person, you say what you hope to see until it manifests.


Love is when you and your friends decide to celebrate Valentine’s Day……again……for a week……in the middle of July.


Love is the smile a child gives to his mom when she serves him beans and he knows that she knows he wants a hot dog, but she doesn’t have a job….it’s his/her way of saying, “It’s okay mommy.  I understand, and I still want to be with you.”


Love is when a wife receives a negative doctor’s report and she goes from denial, to anger, to depression, to acceptance……..and her husband is still there three years later with toast and eggs on Saturday morning.


Love is when a husband becomes excited just watching how his wife takes out the trash. (I don’t know, it just came to me, but that would be real love… LOL!)


Love is when someone keeps failing, and you get more determined with each failure that they WILL win vs giving up on them!


Love is when a kid chews his pencil eraser during a test, then thinks of the motivational speech his dad told him at soccer practice and the answer he couldn’t think of suddenly comes to him.


Love is when you stop listening to a person’s voice and hear their heart.


Love is when perfect masculine energy combines with similar feminine energy to form nirvana.


These quotes may be shared throughout the world to promote a higher energy level, which is much needed these days!  


The #Truth about #Love and #Relationships

Please note that most of what I write is based on pagan or non-traditional beliefs.

Some of us have experienced happenings in #life where we may have felt like our breathing had stopped or that our reason for #living was gone. We could not believe that a certain loved one had passed on to the other side or that a co-worker had betrayed us at our place of employment.  We may have been in shock for months when our spouse announced that they wanted a #divorce and left us #brokenhearted and we wondered why things weren’t going the way Hollywood said they would.  I’d like to submit some observations about love that I think outweigh Hollywood’s notions and basically my take on love is that you should definitely love others, but you must also love yourself:

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