How to Live in a Society of Violent News and Media Without Losing Your Mind

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Initially I titled this how to live in a violent society then I realized not a lot is going on in front of my physical eyes — it’s basically what is being shown in movies, on television and on most news channels. Sometimes you try to get everyone in your household on board with boycotting the news however it doesn’t always work. It pops up on your phone and in your apps — the bad news is always there; someone has done something to their parents, someone has done something to the police, the police has done something to someone, etc.  It’s draining to say the least.

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How to Save Yourself From Gaslighters and People Who Unfairly Challenge Your Good Common Sense

Manipulative People are Very Dangerous Indeed. Let’s Deal with Narcissists First.

Do you interact with someone who is controlling, authoritative or narcissistic? They can be this way overall or in one or two general areas where you feel your common sense, sensible opinions and desires are ignored completely. You probably know what an authoritarian is, however you may not know the definition of a narcissist. According to the Mayo clinic, here are some characteristics of a narcissist:

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Astrology Oracle: “What I Think Joseph Smith, Jr’s Death Teaches Us About What is Happening Today with George Floyd, and How the Same Energies Could Affect Trump’s Upcoming Rally in Oklahoma.”

I don’t think what’s happening with protests around the world is (just) about George Floyd.  I think the timing of George Floyd’s death in an Aquarian Saturn Retrograde has everything to do with how the people feel right now. Continue reading Astrology Oracle: “What I Think Joseph Smith, Jr’s Death Teaches Us About What is Happening Today with George Floyd, and How the Same Energies Could Affect Trump’s Upcoming Rally in Oklahoma.”

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I  hope that you wonderful readers have not felt neglected, however I have been busy populating my BlogTalkRadio Podcast and have found I love to talk as much as I love to write….it’s that Sun/Mercury/Mars/Saturn conjunct….lol!

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Astrological Insights: The Best Advice You’ve Ever Heard about Abuse

boyAstrology is a precious gift that was provided to us by the Master Planners so that we would know what the heck is going on and who we are dealing with.  The key to understanding Astrology is to know its alphabet, which includes the planets, stars and houses.  Once you learn the alphabet, you can put together words with it, then sentences, eventually paragraphs and so on.  Many people don’t take it seriously, but one day I hope we all will.  This morning at about 4 am, I had what I will call a spiritual experience.  I invited it and here is what resulted…

Child Abuse Happens

People go through crap and then they pass the crap on, but it’s not really their fault, sort of, because what I have discovered is sometimes they are just born that way as you will soon see.  The first thing you need to know is that I am not here to pass judgment on anyone!!!

As Astrologers, we must be able to read the charts so that we can reveal the unknown and improve lives.  One of the benefits of having a 12th house superstellium (8 astral bodies in the 12th house, which competes with physical prisons) is that I see what others do not.

The examples I have chosen were public cases of childhood abuse so I am not revealing what no one knows.  These examples were given to me this morning and as I write this post, I have not seen the charts so, as I usually state, what I discover was not pre-planned and I did not seek examples to prove any points.  I will list three women who were abused and two abusers:

To understand more about numerology and arrows, please read D.J. Ward’s book, Numerology for Teachers!

Bunny DeBarge (victim – singer and daughter of Robert Lewis DeBarge, Sr.) – Pisces 3/15/1955; Numerological items of note:  Master Number 11; Probably gets along with most people, but may seem to try to see everything as okay when it really is not; possesses aspects of a Minister; Pythagorean strength arrow of endurance and perseverance

Amanda Berry (victim – abducted by Ariel Castro on the day before turning age 17 — held in captivity for 10 years) – Taurus 4/22/1986, Destiny Number 5; Pythagorean challenges – indecisive, hesitant, but probably somewhat intuitive

Gina de Jesus (victim – abducted by Ariel Castro at age 14 — held in captivity for 10 years)  – Aquarius 2/13/1990, Destiny Number 7, Pythagorean strength arrow of inspired planning and intuitive thought

Ariel Castro (abuser – kidnapper) – Cancer 7/10/1960; Destiny Number 6, creative (but that turned out not to be a good thing)

Robert Lewis DeBarge, Sr. (abuser – Bunny’s dad) – Cancer 7/9/1932; Destiny Number 4; Pythagorean arrow of inspired planning and intuitive thought, hard worker

John Arthur Baptist DeBarge (Bunny’s grandfather and Robert’s dad) – Pisces 3/19/1901, Destiny Number 6, Pythagorean weaknesses of feeling inadequate and low self esteem, also arrow missing, which causes regret, frustration and hopelessness.  I only added this info to see if there are hints of abuse in Robert’s past based on astrological indications.

Initial Items of Note before Reviewing Charts

The most difficult part about these comparisons is making sure I have transcribed birth dates correctly and actually pulling up each chart.  Everything else basically glares at you from the computer screen and requires no major thought.

I must say that to find the abusers’ Suns in the signs of Cancer and Pisces is surprising.  Honestly, I thought the abusers would be mostly in fire or earth signs, however it seems water is where the trouble is, which may be where the term ‘troubled waters’ comes from.  Having too much love for a person coupled with emotional instability is definitely NOT good.

My other initial observation is that we want to see abusers as monsters who hate people and their families, but in these cases, they are quite the family men, however their idea of what draws people close is a bit plutonic vs platonic.

Each abuser and victim has his/her Sun in the 10th house.

What Are the Evident Similar Characteristics in the Charts of Abuse Victims?

This is Astrology 101 so we are not looking to dissect minor transits or checking into degree meanings, but simply seeing what is clearly evident with the planets and houses.  After pulling up Bunny’s, Amanda’s and Gina’s charts, what is clearly evident is Pluto hanging out in the root houses three and four, which are the houses of experiences of youth such as home life, school, family,  the father, etc.  Pluto is not a character that you want to play with.

Additionally, as mentioned above, every woman has the Sun in the 10th house, just like the superstars of music.  This brings me to a point that I missed yesterday, which is the important role of a strong mother in the making of a star.  Keep in mind, however, that the master planners like to put superstars mostly in earth and fire signs vs water.  Perhaps this is why Amanda reportedly received the best treatment of all the other victims of Ariel.  With Venus in the 10th along with the Sun in an earth sign, she was the superstar, if you want to put it like that.

Also, let us look at something interesting about Gina, who was 14, when she was taken into the 10 year captivity and who experienced much emotional trauma, but does not have Pluto in the root houses, only Leo (which actually is enough).  Pluto  showed up in her 6th house in Scorpio, which to me indicates mental challenges with the happenings, however there is another twist in her chart.  When Leo shows up in a house without other astral bodies, he has a tendency to make things happen in non traditional ways, as in he will go around the stump to get the job done so other planets can be in other places.  The Master Planners may stick Leo in to get the job done, but he does not pack the same punch as when the Sun, Jupiter, Pluto or Mars is there.  Personally, I think Pluto and Uranus are a lot closer to the earth than we think, however I digress.

Not long ago, I did a post about the parents of Lizzie Velasquez and their affect on her healing and success.  I see this also in Gina’s chart, with the Sun in the 10th house of influence of the mother and fame.  Mr. Sun is trining with Jupiter and absolutely square Mr. Pluto!  Bunny’s Sun also trines Jupiter, however there are no players available to lessen the effects of Pluto in a major way except for Father Time (Saturn).

Also for Gina, Jupiter and Chiron the Healer are in the 2nd house in Cancer which screams support system for the natal individual.  The 2nd house is about more than money, but also about values and self-worth — kudos to moms and dads who support their kids because you can change their lives in doing this!

What About the Abusers?  Which Aspects do They Share?

We need to teach Astrology to teachers in the private and public school systems of America so that people can get the help they need early.  I honestly believe this would bring more of what Gina and Lizzie had into the charts of more people.

Both of the abusers have 10th house Suns in water (Cancer), however, with Mr. DeBarge, the Sun actually joined in the frolic with Pluto and Lilith was the Administrative Assistant — man oh man!

Virgo in the 12th House of Abusers

I consider Virgo as the planner and business person who puts everything in its place, however, when stuck in the 12th house, Virgo apparently lashes out — the 12th house is not a good place to feel stuck when you want things to be ordered in a different way.

The Moon’s emotional upheavals aggravate Virgo in Robert’s chart, and Pluto, which is in Ariel’s 11th house, is also in Virgo — so the effects are felt in the 12th house as well.  Neptune and Uranus are in ‘not so good’ placements – the house of groups / hives (11th) where someone like Venus or Mercury needs to be.

So where is Venus?  Where in the heck is she in the charts of these abusers?  Can you guys believe she is in Cancer?  Yes, love is in the family structure, in the constellation of the home, however her power is perverted in a conjunct with the Sun and opposites/ inconjuncts with Saturn…….feelings don’t last long or they just come and go as they please.  The group issues exacerbate the Venus placement because a family is considered to be a group also.

Both abusers have Saturn in the fourth house of roots and paternal influences — perhaps there is frustration in the inability to measure up to a father one worships so you just say fuck it, then uh oh……and start over again, and again and again to the dismay of the kids and wife.

Robert’s Chart is A Lot for Anyone to Deal With — What of his Dad?

Believe it or not, some people are just who they are and are moving in from a previous life experience to complete a lesson they have to learn.  There are no major abusive tendencies in Robert’s dad’s chart (his love is in the house of the Lord) and with Fortune in Robert’s third house, he probably had a decent upbringing, however with Pisces as a North Node, there was something major he came here to learn and perfect.

Also, his dad’s sixth house Uranus has negative transits with other players, which could indicate what I noted in the earlier numerology section. The moon’s influence here indicates the adversity was more mental than physical.

Simply put, with regard to Robert, issues like a Sun/Pluto conjunct, as well as Mars in the 8th in Gemini and Uranus riding the Ram (Aries) in the marriage house (hinting at the biracial marriage as well) is just a situation that nobody wants to friggin deal with.

So there you have it, in a nut shell.  Thanks for reading and please follow for more interesting comparisons and insights!








The Purpose of #Pain in #Heartbreak – A Look at Domestic Abuse

I’m sitting here in front of my laptop, wondering what to say to you, but secure in the fact that there is something to be said.  You see I write when I am hurting or happy  — it is a coping mechanism, a mandate which has also turned into a tool for healing myself and others and I have become very secure in the fact that I don’t have to know what to say when I begin typing.

Why Would Anyone Want to Hurt Me?

You are a person that others can come to for help and understanding.  The thing that you would never dream of doing to anyone was done to you and it does not make sense.  Of all the whores in the world, why were you targeted.  Stop.  Wait.   This is about me.  Please excuse my mid-paragraph change from second to first person.  What is it about me that someone would beat down the door to get into to my heart, just to tear it up?  What good could come of this?

Hurt People Hurt People…..Period.

My ex-husband had a very charismatic smile.  To this day, women find him hard to resist and he knows it, believe me he is well aware of it….LOL, except for his teeth are now falling out.  I recall sitting with him during our dating period and listening to horrific stories of childhood abuse by his babysitter when he was as young as three years old, a mother who took drugs and chose abusive men over her children and a father who was not interested in being there.  I decided (in usual Piscean fashion) that I would be the one that would be there for him and prove to him that not all people are that way.  Little did I know what was in store for me, but there was and is a purpose for it all.

Initially I could not understand his passive aggression that he had perfected while living with a very strong-willed Leo mom.  You see, he still felt himself the victim and he was very angry with women and not ready to let go of that anger.  Each time he hurt me, he hurt her.  Each time he hit me, he hit the babysitter.  Each time he abandoned me, he was trying to get his father back for abandoning him.  I was just the scapegoat….an unwilling, unhappy, scapegoat.

It’s Hot in the Oven!

Many of you have read my blog and you know I have a pretty big mouth (LOL) so there were a lot of times that I said what I thought and ended up using extra Revlon ColorStay foundation to cover up the black eye.  As the new me was being sifted, shaken, stirred, poured on, and eventually baked, I sat there like Job in the dust wondering why all of this had happened to me when all I wanted was love and a family.  I had sat down with this man before committing to him and told him clearly what I wanted in a relationship and had sincerely expressed to him that I was looking for something serious, but we did not go through premarital counseling and I did not have a psychology degree.  A professional would have heard his story, asked how he had resolved it and would have warned me that this was not a healed person.  Instead I chose to believe his words, see his smile and signed a contract.  He was the hunter and I was a deer in the woods.

Soon after we were married, I noticed his lack of participation in our relationship.  He had me just where he wanted me….up on a wall like a dart board above a fireplace mantlepiece, with my face morphing into everyone that had ever hurt him.  I had no clue what was going on because they did not teach this in school and weird things started to happen.

The Transformation was Not Cute!

I began to swear and curse….something I had never done before in my life.  I reacted to his actions, but not to his circumstances, which were about 42 years old and much deeper than me.  His heart was stony and when I cried, he laughed because that was a dart through the heart of whichever enemy I was that day — and besides, no one had wiped his tears away as a child so who was I to be comforted.I honestly felt like he was jealous of me….jealous that I had a mother that loved me, jealous that my father had been there all my life, jealous that my sisters and brothers were gainfully employed…and even though none of us were perfect, the jealousy turned into hatred.  The one that I thought would protect me and love me hated me more than anyone else in the world, which makes me, to this day, leery of marriage.I orchestrated a trip for him to meet up with his dad so that they could talk after having been estranged for over 25 years.  We went to his dad’s home, but my ex turned into a little boy and could not get up the nerve to ask his dad the hard questions.  It was a wasted trip.

In the meantime, I began to eat like a Shih Tzu because food was like a drug.  It gave me something to look forward to, put me to sleep, and made me undesirable because I no longer wanted to be attractive to him due to an intense resentment.  Then I shaved my head…..yep…..I shaved my head just like Job.  The good thing about that was everyone else in the world was nice to me because they thought I had the ‘c’ word…and actually I did — him.I remember the nightmares, literal nightmares that I had about him running from me in a crowd as I chased him and called his name.  I would awake crying and in distress because I thought he was supposed to be my husband, whatever the fuck that was.  It was weird.  I also recall nights in the basement, staring in the dark, alone in the oven.  I couldn’t sleep in our room because I just couldn’t.  The marriage was desecrated.  My girlish beliefs were shattered.  I had no where to go, no one to teach me and no heart to hold the lessons.  There was a couch downstairs and it seemed to hug me when I slept on it.  I’d remain there for months listening to meditation tapes to try to fix my mind, while I prayed for help and a thick presence would fill the room, complete me and lull me to sleep.

At the time, I did not know I was being recreated because it is a good possibility that if I had met a wonderful man like Mike Brady and had a loving family I would not have written my first song in 2008 because I would have been too busy baking pies for my sexy husband and planning Thanksgiving dinner with Alice.  The day that I wrote the song “Free” I had finally realized this man had NO INTENTION of trying to make me happy because he was a mysogynist.  I did not know what that word meant,  but I knew there had to be a word for men who hate women and there it was – mysogyny.

I decided to give myself a birthday party one year and he knew it was very important to me so on the day of the party, he refused to come, just to try to hurt me — because his dad had not shown up to any of his birthday parties.  It was like the thought of me being happy pissed him off (remember I represented all of the women he hated) so in a fit of anger, sadness, distrautness and hopelessness, I was like, I need to write a song….yeah I know, but this is what happened.  I was soooooo pregnant (by my baby’s daddy, who’s name was Mr. Pain) that I went to the nearest Guitar Center, purchased a preamp, a mike, and ended up stumbling through Cakewalk software (not user friendly) and writing the following;

Sometimes I want to be free

of the pain surrounding me.

Free to laugh and to smile,

spreading love to every child.

Thinking of reasons to be sweet.

Smiling at the people that I meet.

Sharing with the ones who are in need.

I just want to be free.

It was a silly little song that you can listen to here (Free).  I had no clue what I was doing, but the baby was crowning and that song was just a realization of my pain and a personal profession of my desire to be happy.  I kept thinking we could fix it and I kept trying, which turned into “I Don’t Want Nobody Else” and then getting mad again, which came out as “Somebody Lied”.  Before you know it, Mr. Pain’s baby was born and I had enough material for a friggin album, which my ex hated of course – LOL!!!!!

The realization sat in one day when I picked up his cell phone and read the text message, “Babe I’m home and I miss you.”  That message was not from me. I think the thing that made me so mad was the fact that I had spent so many nights alone wondering what was wrong and why marriage had turned out to be lonelier than being single and then came the songs “Don’t Rain on My Parade” and “New Day”, which completed the album, as well as the books “The Mystic” and “Broken Heart”.  By the way, he abandoned homegirl too.

The Chocolate Cake is Done!

Well guys, I’m not going to tell you that sometimes I don’t cry because sometimes one tear does still fall, but I no longer ball over this broken relationship.  I think the tears still fall because it is sad that people can be so evil or that once you know that people are evil, it can rub off on you.  Even if he crawled back to me on bloodied knees he could never get back in because, as Pink says, he was a tool, but I can tell you one thing:  I have come up with a whole lot of ways to do what I am suppose to do in this Universe ON MY OWN because I do NOT need the Counsel of Elders, the Fates and any other sadistic groups sending any more shit my way to get me to do anything, which is the reason that I am writing this tonight.Some people may ask, “don’t you feel sorry for him?  He needed help?”  My answer is FUCK NO!  There are many people who were abused who didn’t turn out like that.

I don’t know who needs this right now but most times pain is not personal.  People hurt other when they’re angry at someone else.  You are a timeless and eternal soul who will one day be too strong and bright to fit into a human body.  Perhaps the sun in our solar system was once a broken woman who’s pain from abandonment, the loss of a child, the loss of a parent, etc.,  caused her to be consumed to the point where no one could get close to her.  She soon learned that she had to leave her dead behind on the battlefield and help the living.  Now her energy is a ball of fire, fueled by her experiences, and is the center of a solar system and that feeds and nurtures an entire planet, ours!

Make the best decisions that you can and seek professional advice when it is appropriate.  When you feel an odd nudging to do something positive, just do it because you don’t know who it will help.  My hope is that after listening to my music, books or blog posts that someone’s eyes will automatically dry from crying or that they will drum up the courage to seek help and stop hurting others because there is enough room out there for us all to have our own solar systems!


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