It doesn’t happen overnight.
At first, you actually craved human company. As a child, you clung to your mother, father, older sibling—whoever felt safe. Sleepovers made you feel secure. Recess was all about group play. High school meant sports teams and cliques. College? Dorm life, roommates, dining halls packed with chatter.
Your entire life, you were trained to want to be around people.
And yet…people hurt you.
You didn’t know it would come to this. That, one day, you’d barely want to talk to anyone. That even the thought of traffic would give you anxiety. That you’d wake up and realize: you’re an urban hermit.
Let’s rewind.
🌀 When They Show You Who They Are…
You began to notice the cracks early on. Friends who threw shade behind your back. Lovers who used words as weapons. Family members who only called when they needed something.
But sometimes, the signs were even more brutal.
Take the recent case of the college student tragically murdered by her so-called friends on spring break. You read the story and your heart ached—not just because of what happened, but because a quiet voice inside whispered: That could’ve been me.
Not all who claim to love you do. And you learned that the hard way.
Still, you longed for connection. Even into your 30s, you’d attend gatherings, respond to invites, try to “show up” for people. But then, your spiritual awakening arrived.
And everything changed.
🌌 Enter: The Awakening
You didn’t plan for it. It could’ve been triggered by trauma, heartbreak, or the slow realization that nothing external could truly satisfy you.
Suddenly, conversations felt shallow. Social settings became draining. Family phone calls ended with headaches. The only people you truly connected with were strangers online—chat groups, TikTok lives, spiritual Facebook communities.
You began saying less to those you once loved. And you felt…freer.
Then it happened.
That thing in 2020 we all remember but don’t speak of. (No need to name it—you already feel the chill.)
Everything shut down.
🏡 When Isolation Becomes a Sanctuary
For the first time, everything came to you. Groceries. Shampoo. Potatoes. Toilet paper—well, kind of. You worked from home and realized… this wasn’t so bad. No more security following you in the store.
You started to thrive in silence. You’d wake up, maybe shower, and settle into your home office. You became a ghostwriter on Fiverr, maybe a virtual assistant, or a content creator. You learned how to automate your life.
Your Kenyan coffee? Ordered online.
The mug you drink it from? Delivered.
Your bed, your desk, your couch—all reviewed by people you’ve never met and shipped straight to your doorstep.
Money flows in electronically. Your food arrives hot. And when you want to escape, you fall into someone else’s curated life—on Netflix, YouTube, or Instagram.
💻 A Day in the Life of an Urban Hermit
You’re not antisocial. Not really.
You’re just done with small talk.
You’d rather scroll through energy updates than sit through a meeting. You’d rather vibe in your candle-lit room than elbow through Target on a Sunday. Even your partner—if you have one—knows the deal. They might be the one who runs errands, but even that’s rare.
Because you don’t need much. And everything you need comes to you.
You think about going to the drugstore…but then it’s too hot. Too cold. Too wet. Too crowded. Too something. Honestly, it’s always too much.
Your home is your haven. Your energy is sacred. You, my friend, are a modern-day urban hermit.
🌿 What It Really Means to Be Alone
But let’s be honest—it’s not just about convenience. It’s not laziness. It’s not fear.
It’s evolution.
Your soul has expanded. You’ve become more intuitive. You read people instantly. You no longer pretend to enjoy meaningless conversation. You value your peace so deeply that solitude has become a love language.
And here’s the wild part: you’re not alone in this.
More and more awakened souls are turning inward. Living quietly. Working digitally. Healing privately. Finding joy in stillness. And no, you’re not weird for craving that. You’re just ahead of the curve.
🔮 This Is Your Hermit Era
Becoming a modern-day hermit doesn’t mean you hate people.
It means you finally love yourself enough to protect your space.
You’ve traded crowded rooms for clarity.
Noise for knowing.
Performance for peace.
And while the world may not understand your new lifestyle, your soul does.
This is your hermit era. Own it. Honor it. Protect it.
