How I Dealt With Pain and Perpetual Perpetrator Punishment

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What are Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious?

Carl Jung introduced us to the idea of archetypes as we know them today; they stem from the collective unconscious and are defined as universal, primal symbols and images that derive from shared, instinctive, mental concepts of the human race. They help us to understand why similar godlike characters and human roles existed in all shamanistic societies worldwide. Jungian archetypes actually stem from the forces of nature and include the mother, father, child, trickster and such. All archetypes that we become or that we experience make up the sum of who we are as personalities. There is one such archetype, The Victim, that I want to discuss today.

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Definition according to Renee Tarot:


– a state of being whereby one overcomes all situations in life, whether good or bad, with a state of conscious, and intrinsically ethical, neutrality.

When I was a little girl my mother was quite nurturing toward me and my siblings, but my father struggled to connect with his own heart, how he felt about himself and how to nurture children (namely a child like me).  He, and his father before him, had been beaten down by American society and its consequences on lower class families and the uneducated men that head them.

As a result, I felt he did NOT want me… was as simple as that.  Consequently, I did NOT like him and the dislike morphed into a few different feelings over my lifetime:

  1.  longing (ages 0-7)
  2. avoidance (ages 8-12)
  3. hatred (ages 13-21)
  4. pity (ages 21-32)
  5. forgiveness (ages 33-45)
  6. neutrality/duty (ages 46- present)

The final feeling is what I experience to this day and duty is based on the minimum of what I would want my children (or any other caretaker) to express toward me.  I thank Spirit for the life lesson, which made me strong and provided clarity.

Nature teaches us despite the depths and joys attainable in any relationship, all eventually end in the 3rd dimension. This leads one to think we should operate with a sense that all we can hold on to is what we are, and any more that we need is given on a ‘need to have’ basis from the Universal Life Force. Each person receives an abundance of ‘something’, but no one can enjoy their ‘something’ without a paradigm shift with regard to what they lack.

If one is unable to see clearly, (s)he cannot judge.

If one is given so much that (s)he can attain nothing for him or herself, (s)he lives in a state of mental weakness.  What one feels mentally eventually becomes physical.

If one is so hurt, (s)he cannot get past self pity, (s)he is unable to help others, thereby leading to selfishness.

I would venture to say ‘strength’ in 2019 is a rare commodity.  If you don’t have it, find a way to get it.



P.S. Both my older and younger sisters had a completely different experience with my father, one that was more positive.  People deal with us based on how we react to them (even parents), therefore ‘strength’ requires that we see things from others’ perspectives and avoid tunnel-visioned mentality in our own matrices, hence the desperate need for neutrality.

How Understanding your Beloved Pet May Help You to be a Better Parent or Boss

I think this message is very timely with governments having completed the canine genome and are now relating domestic pups to humans in a more significant way, even with regard to treating CANCER!  Now please keep in mind, the videos that I am proposing here by Doggy Dan DO NOT claim to train people, just dogs, however a lot of what he says can be applied to people.

Having said that, and understanding that our basic physical nature is animal, there were some things that struck me about what Doggy Dan says, which I think can be applied to my household.

If you click on any of the interactive links below, the products are meant only to help you train dogs….period!  I just happened to get more from what he says and thought you might also.
The Pack Leader

You already know that you really need to be the pack leader in your home or workplace in order to be successful so how do you do this?  Do you need to yell, beat your chest, stand on tables and proclaim that you are top dog?  No you don’t.  Studying facts about dogs can help with this.

In the wild, dogs view every member of the pack as part of the family and how each dog is dealt with by the pack leader, will depend on the nature of the dog.  As with any animal, each human being displays different traits and characteristics.  Therefore, doing well with one employee or child and having a hard time with another is no reflection on YOU as a person or leader. People and animals have to be dealt with differently.
Difficult, smart, driven people and animals have certain ways of receiving messages from you and it is not just from your vocal cords.  Bribing, warring/fighting with, etc. will not only cause you major frustration, but could end in very negative events as peoples’/animals’ instinctual, defensive responses kick in.  Learn from Doggie Dan about how successful animal pack leaders behave: