Most of the things that I have craved and fiended for in this life, were the things that I ended up wanting the least….
What Do You Really Want?
My purpose for writing this post is to help readers to understand the skill of ‘knowing’ what you really want out of life. You would be surprised at what brings happiness to each individual — and many times it is not money — more times than not, people do not follow their true dreams.
Mystics always talk about ways to manifest energies into the physical realm so that all the things we desire can be enjoyed, but we have the ability to fool ourselves into wanting things that could actually be kicked to the curb and not missed. In my life I have been utterly notorious for that.
Sometimes peer pressure can cause us to want things that do not fit with our personality types and we are made to feel ‘left out’ or like something is wrong with us if we do not share in something that is generally accepted by the status quo. For example, people who do not want to marry or have children are sometimes considered as selfish and narcissistic, which is rarely, the case.
There are other instances where we want something because we were caught off guard and our physical senses were clouded, for example you forgot your healthy snack and pulled up to a local drive thru restaurant for the greasy, bacon, cheesy, griddle special that is two for one, just to end up later with a sick feeling, five extra pounds and indigestion.
Another great example is when the 28-year-old is the last of her sorority sisters to walk the wedding aisle, and a man she doesn’t love asks her to marry him. She actually says yes so that she is not the only soror that remains single. All the while she thinks she can really love this person, but he is not right for her — at all. Many people could be hurt in this situation.
Everyone of us is different and we have to learn how to appreciate who we are and what we bring to the world’s table.
Study on Determining What You Really Desire
That sounds simple, but it really takes time. You may be wondering why you have not landed that six figure job. Once you really meditate on it, you realize you were taught that only bad people have lots of money. Or that you can’t have money and everything else like good health. Now you have to work through the faulty teaching that you heard for many years of your childhood. Your subconscious may be blocking your desire for wealth.
I want to offer some tips on how to know and rest in what you really want so that you don’t spend your life starting over and backtracking in confusion. First, please take the following skills quiz to determine what you want. The answer key is located below the questions, but don’t cheat!
Manifestation Quiz
1. Everyone imagines the best case scenario when they are fantasizing about what they want. Imagine how you would feel if your dreamboat lost his job and got physically ill. Do you still want him? Do you love and want him enough to be the person that would stand by his side and support him or is your desire for him only present when your fantasy includes his current sports car, job and bank account(s)?
2. Soooo you really want to have a child with your current spouse (and you guys are having problems, but you really feel a baby would bring you closer together — oh btw he’s already cheated on you) and you imagine how much he will love you when he gently places his hand on your pregnant belly and feels the child’s gentle punt against his hand. You imagine that your husband will cry at the birth and look at you with tears in his eyes telling you he loves you for what you have given him. Now imagine, four years and two kids later that he leaves for another woman. Do you wish you had waited to have the kids? Are you still happy you proceeded in getting pregnant by him?
3. You have cried, prayed, kissed and begged for the new position at work as Director of your department. The salary is four times what you are making now and you would get the big corner office that overlooks a lake. You imagine yourself walking through the front lobby of the office and everyone is practically bowing down to greet you because of your new status. NOW imagine that you had to fire someone that everybody likes (including your best friend) and now when you walk though the front door you are hit in the face with a stifling energy from office employees. The resistance is draining and when you go home, it is all you can do to get in the shower and take your exhausted self to bed in your brand new corporate loft apartment that you don’t feel the desire to enjoy because you have to get up Monday morning and face another week of sabotage and office politics. Riiiiiiiiiiiiing! Wait, that’s your work cell phone and the big boss wants to see you on Sunday about something somebody else did that you were suppose to be managing. Do you still want the job?
Answer Key
Yes, No (there are two questions)
No, Yes (there are two questions)
Yes
Did you ace the test? If so, you most likely have the skills to know what you really want out of life! Congratulations!
Tips and Tricks to Discover What You Want
Perhaps you failed the quiz above and need to work on your ‘thinking things through’ abilities! In a nutshell, to determine what you really want out of life you must:
1. Imagine ALL of the possibilities. Every last one of them — the good, the bad and the ugly!
2. Get a few different points of view from the one you were reared to believe. Now, what do you think?
3. Test drive before you buy.
4. Watch what people do, not what they say and believe what they tell you with their actions.
5. Visit before you make a permanent move.
6. Spend time with people to know who they really are (and vice versa), and to give them time to evolve so you can see what direction they are headed in.
7. Go spend time with your partner’s family and friends. That is usually who ‘they’ are.
8. Guard your heart and don’t give it away too quickly. Maintain balance and equilibrium in your actions and thoughts.
9. Trust that what you have currently manifested in your life and what continually comes back to you (though you are trying to change it again) may be what you really want do to deep set beliefs.
10. Be honest with yourself, even if your desires are against the status quo — surround yourself with like minds or someone who is doing what you think you want. Could you face their problems and issues?
11. Compromise is necessary, but just how much are you willing to compromise? Know this!
Perhaps after thinking deeply about the above topic you will be able to use the widely available tools to manifest what you really want because now you know just what that is!
Call or chat with me today to discuss the possibilities that life and love have to offer you!
Many blessings!
